Dear Nabila,
I’m a 15-year-old girl. I’d like to have some information on how to take care of my body. I want to know how to control the hair on my underarms and pubic area, because the rate at which it grows is very rapid.
– Seeking for hairy Solution
Dear Seeking,
To tread on the path of caution, my first advice would be for you to go for medical consultation so as to rule out any possible medical condition that is known to cause rapid hair growth, especially if you have some other accompanying symptoms along with it. Such as excess hair growth, menstrual irregularity and rapid weight gain. This might point to the fact that you might have polycystic ovarian syndrome and need immediate treatment. Early diagnoses will curb the disease before it can cause much trouble to both your physical and emotional wellbeing. I do hope it’s just a normal hair growth and not one caused by any hormonal imbalance, but it is better to be safe than sorry.
My next advice is that you mentally accept the reality of your condition, understand that this is how you are naturally, this is how you are genetically made in terms of hair growth rate, and just as the shape of your nose or the lilt in your voice will always be uniquely yours, so also is the rate at which your hair grows back. When you allow this realization to sink in, it will be easier for you to cope with the inconveniences that comes along with it and incorporate it as a normal part of your life.
Tweezing the hair followed immediately by waxing helps to slow the pace at which it grows back.
Fix a suitable date for shaving or waxing these particular areas, so it becomes a normal part of your personality. You will not feel bothered or feel that you are doing something extra that you don’t want to do.
You can also consider electrolysis or laser hair removal treatments which are somewhat permanent, but are very costly and you have to do several sessions to achieve the desired result.
How do I become his type of lady?
Dear Nabilah,
I’m very much in love with someone and he seems to like me too, the only problem is we have opposite perspectives and lifestyles. He’s endowed with a lot of religious knowledge, and he holds on to his religious practices devoutly. While, on the other hand, I’m very social and outgoing. He doesn’t like some of the things I do which he considers against Islamic teachings; I know he is right, but I grew up in this type of lifestyle. I don’t know how to live any other way. Recently, he asked me if I think we are a good match, he said I should seek advice if we will be good couple considering our different personalities? Please advise me on how to become the type of woman that he likes, that’s someone that’s very religiously committed in personality and physical appearance.
-Opposite Attracts
Dear Opposite,
It’s not right or healthy to want to change for the sake of someone else to like or love you, it is better and healthier to only change for yourself, for your improvement, for your self esteem, so you feel comfortable with yourself, which will make you more likeable to other people.
In terms of adjusting religious beliefs and practices, then it is more authentic and beneficial to do it only for the sake of Almighty Allah and not anyone else’s, for the simple reason that you are worshiping Allah. So anything you will do for the sake of worship is best if you do it with pure intention of getting closer to Allah and earning his mercies. You are ready to mould yourself for the sake of another human being, why wouldn’t you do it for your Creator who loves you as you are despite all your mistakes and wrongdoings?
My advice is. hearkens and adjust your religious practices by doing all the recommended actions and avoiding all the prohibitions as much as you can. Engage in actions that increase and make firm your faith such as charity, keeping tight of kinship, etc. The best in this regard is reciting the Holy Quran, just as you know reading any of your favorite novel will make you become a fan of that writer, that is also how daily recitation of the Quran makes you fall in love with your Creator, but a completely different kind of love. A love that instills tranquility in the heart and spirit, sharpness and intuition to the mind.
One of the reasons you like this particular person might be because you like to have the quality he is blessed with, that’s practicing Islam and having Islamic knowledge. So instead of doing it, you would rather have him. Why not do it for your Creator, the owner of both your souls? And for yourself so you will also enjoy what he is having? And if in the process, you have your man then it will be a beautiful bonus, and if you both aren’t meant for each other then you have the better and best of the two choices! Remember, your Creator first, and then you!
