Possessing your man

Security, for instance, comes when a woman tries to get to understand her man, which is his attitude to every given situation and his reactions. This will go a long way in helping the communication process in the relationship and will further strengthen the bond between couple. Communication is a very effective and essential tool in every relationship that cannot be underestimated. It is only through communication that differences can be solved and views shared. You have to address those issues, so your man won’t feel the need to go elsewhere.

Mrs Habiba Mohammed, a married woman, is of the view that no relationship can work without communication. She said the only way she resolves crisis in her home is by communicating with her spouse, adding that it is through effective communication that she gets to know how to love her husband better. Indeed, according to her, they are open and listen to each other, which enable her to easily reaffirm to her husband how much she loves him.

“A lot of men cheat because they don’t feel their women really want to be with them, so it is good to remind him that he is the one for you,” she said.

Usually, men have high ego, they do not want to be mocked, criticized or looked down upon, so make him feel like a man, by boosting his ego. It makes him feel good and will keep him running back to you. Every man needs the admiration and appreciation of his woman to keep him to herself. Respect is also very essential, the more you respect your man, the more he respects you and is willing to defend you.

According to Grace Robert, “submitting to my husband makes him love me more, by not depriving him of sex either as a threat or punishment. In any case, this kind of manipulation will only drive him out to the arms of another woman. I ask him what he wants from me and I try my possible best to meet his needs.” She said a man likes to be regarded and treated with dignity and seen as the head of the family. “The more I am willing to listen to him, cook his meals, do his laundry and keep the house clean, the more he shows me love, appreciates me and buys me gifts. In fact it makes him always in a hurry to come back home with a beautiful smile on his face and I am always there to welcome him with a hug, that has kept our relationship moving smoothly.”

Men like to be treated like heroes; they need a sense of belonging by reminding them of how much you want to be with them. The more a man is made to feel comfortable with a woman, the more intimacy is built. Similarly, becoming best friends is also very important because it is only as friends that you can win each other’s trust. Once a man is able to trust a woman, it is quite easier for him to love her and be faithful to her.

In her opinion, Mrs Amina I. said her husband is her best friend and they have been married for the past 25 years and are living happily. She said this is because friends are patient with each other, they stand by each other through thick and thin, they are honest and love unconditionally. Above all, they understand each other and that is what has kept my husband coming back to me, besides no man wants a mother for a lover when he already has one.

Availability of a woman to her man keeps him; make out time for him it gives him a sense of importance. So, even in the midst of your tight schedule, try to squeeze out time to share with your man.  Good hygiene is also very important for every woman to keep her man; you need to take your bath regularly, use deodorants and sweet perfumes, wear appealing clothes, be confident, and look great by exercising and using good food supplements. Accept yourself, and then he can accept you and love you the way you are.

For Vivienne Buba, women should treat their man like a mistress does. She said “I like to treat my man like am his mistress because the mistress is always attentive and listens to whatever the man has to say after a stressful day. She gives him a massage, treats him like a baby by pampering him because men like to be pampered and treated like kings. This is why mistresses tend to keep men away from their homes. So it is the best way to keep your man.”

Every woman has that power and ability to keep her man, all she needs is a proper knowledge of how best to apply that power. Once a woman is able to use her potentials by showing love to her man, she should rest assured that he will keep running back to her.