I love my husband, but his mother insists we divorce!

Dear Nabila,

My mother-in-law doesn’t like me and she insists that my husband must divorce me out of her own selfish reasons. We love each other very much but she doesn’t want me to continue being his wife, please advice me?

-Saving my marriage

Dear saving,

I advise you to tread cautiously because this is a very sensitive issue considering the enormous importance of mother in any one’s life. Don’t judge your mother-in-law with so much harshness, because you don’t really know the complete story, you don’t what your mother-in-law suffered in childhood, in her own marriage, in bringing up her children; you don’t actually know what she is going through right now, the demons she is fighting; you don’t know if she is suffering from menopausal or post menopausal symptoms or the onset of some particular end of life illness; which can all culminate in altering her perception and judgment. Maybe the actual reason has nothing to do with you, or it may be the way her son deserted her, altered his treatment of her, or in some way did something that makes her believe she is no longer important to him. So until you know the whole story of how she arrived to that decision, you cannot say ‘it’s out of her selfish reason only.’ If you believe that then it might be said you are selfish too for wanting to stay married to her son despite the fact that she doesn’t like it!

Understand, and keep reminding yourself that your mother-in-law is the most important person in your husband’s life, so as a loving wife, support your husband in this difficult situation he finds himself, by being extremely patient with his mother, by showing genuine respect and treating her in the most courteous way, by never uttering any bad word against her or holding a grudge. If you really love your husband then do all your might to see that his mother is well pleased, and did not become sadden because of him even if it means the end of your marriage; if you did this sincerely and wholeheartedly, perhaps it might save your marriage. And if, unfortunately the marriage ends, you might be rewarded with better husband, more love and more happiness.

Should I tell him what I know?

Dear Nabila,

There are rumours that my husband is planning on taking a second wife, of course, I am jealous as a woman. He has not mentioned that to me yet even though we are very good friends and shares everything with each other. Do you think I should approach him with the topic or I let things unfold when it is time? I am very anxious and  worried about so many things, kindly advice?

-Feeling Anxious

Dear Anxious

First confirm if it’s more than a rumour before doing anything else. If it happens to be true, I advice you to not say anything and let thing unfold. Meanwhile, use this opportunity to invest in self care both emotionally and physically; emotinally by building up your self confidence so you can chase away any foolish emotions such as jeaolousy, feeling small, inadequate and less important; also delete all negative thoughts and plants lots of positive thoughts in your mind which will give you a lot of strength to face what is coming ahead. Read inspiring and motivational articles that can further motivate you to be more positive and increase you in self confidence, therefore chasing away all anxious feeling away from your heart.  Also pamper yourself by indulging in skin and hair care, feminine make up and accessories that will bring your alluring nature, this will make you feel as new and beautiful as any bride. Above all, try your might to not display any envious feelings or attitudes to your husband because he’s taking a second wife. Increase in your love and affection to him, caring and serving him better than you used to this will uphold your honor in his sight, he will respect you deeply and love you with a new glint!

Doing Business far away from Home

Dear Nabila,

What is the best way to start a business in a different state, far away from the state one lives in?

-Business Away

Dear Business,

I hope you have a valid reason for wanting to start a business far away from where you live, and your reason must be something that has the potential of yielding more result, more profit and more ease to you? Or maybe you just want to experiment or achieve a particular purpose? If not then starting a business far away from where you live might be very risky with lot of hassles and difficulties, strong, unyielding determination is needed for it to succeed. Anyway, below are some of the ways to start a business far away from home:

Visit and stay in that particular town, organize and launche the business until it’s well established then you can hand it over to a trusted manager who can oversee and report to on daily basis or according to how you decide.

Find someone you know and trust in that far way town and partner with him in establishing the business, maybe you can provide capital while he provides manpower, etc.

You can research and find some business that doesn’t need much physical presence like real estate, investment in some specific business that seems to be profitable in that particular town, etc.

Or you can build an online store, through employing the power of click funnels, where you can market all your merchandise and display various types of businesses, people from all over the world can buy and different types of customers can patronage you from the comfort of your home.