Forgiveness – A balm for our wounds

According to Oxford advanced learners dictionary, forgiveness is the act of forgiving somebody; willingness to forgive somebody. Sometimes, we need to let go some certain grudges and pains that we habour against someone.

Forgiveness is a powerful antidote that will totally re-energise you. It is like an exercise in compassion. It is a process, it requires you to make decision, and the conscious decision is followed by an act of will. In the process you will be able to convert your sufferings into psychological and spiritual growth.

Forgiveness is an honourable process because it replaces wrong doing with goodness. It creates benevolence through good will and generosity. It is hard to imagine putting aside thoughts of anger or revenge and replacing them with the gift of love and mercy immediately. Yet some people do. Let us learn how to forgive to bury the hatchet and let the sleeping dog lie for nothing  good comes out of revenge rather it complicates the issue the more.

“I used to think that by withholding forgiveness from my offenders they would suffer then I realise that I was the one suffering.

When I finally understood the power of forgiveness it was truly enlightening. I discovered that I have a lot more freedom, feel happier and focused.

I realized that forgiveness is a balloon to our wounds. Sometimes the person you are holding grudges against may be a ladder to you success,”

Have you noticed that the word forgiveness is a compounded with the word give? By forgiving, we give ourselves a gift; we choose to let go of the past in the hope that by doing so we will make a better life in the future.

It is said that everything in life happens for a purpose even though sometimes the circumstances are so painful that reasoning seems out of the question.

Don’t allow the pain of the past to become a permanent crutch in your life. Realise that it is your responsibility to heal yourself. Nobody else can do it for you. Being unforgiving saps your energy and may even make you ill, it is an energy vampire. But forgiveness heals your body and eliminates your toxic thoughts and anger. It heals your heart.

Let go of thoughts of revenge and begin to love unconditionally, it heals your relationship and heals your life.

Think of forgiveness not so much as an act, but as a lifestyle. Try to forgive and forget, “let by-gone be by-gone.”