Can you handle the truth?

“I have lost it since I came to realize the truth. It has really been a big blow for me as I do not seem to be able to focus on anything again since I came to know the disgusting truth. Please if I fear I might do something nasty to myself or the person who hides the truth from me. Please tell me why is the truth so bitter and hard to handle and please I would be grateful if you could tell me how best to handle the truth when we are confronted with it, because right now I am in a state of distress.” These were the words of Maryam Muhammed who wrote in to express her dilemma.

You want the truth? You-can’t-handle-the-truth is a famous line from the movie ‘A few good men’ and this applies to almost everyone in life. There are many of us who find ourselves in this kind of situation and find it very difficult to handle the truth when we come face to face with it, likewise many have asked questions about handling the truth and even asked if it causes destruction of relationships and dreams. Of course when it becomes difficult to handle, the truth definitely destroys relationships and most especially you because if you do not handle it properly, it ends up shattering everything about you which affects almost everything in your life.

Many people have said that truth heals and they have equally asked that if the truth heals why is it so difficult to handle, why are we so afraid of the very thing that would set us free and feel better and so much at peace? The question is worth asking. And the alternative is worth imagining, too.

Sometimes the truth grabs us right where it hurts and strangles life out of us. Maybe the truth was slapped unexpectedly on us and it made us to realize that everything that we were doing were just fake and were not working but something has got to give in and change but we never give truth the chance to change things in our lives as we just get trapped in a whirlwind of emotion which makes it difficult for us to move and forge ahead in life.

We all have times when we cannot handle the truth. Hearing the truth about ourselves truly takes courage and a little faith. Truth like suffering has the distinctive capacity to improve the quality of our life, if we are willing to accept it.  Unwillingness to hear and accept the truth is one of the reasons some people are a failure at relationships and marriages.  Until we learn to accept and even embrace the truth the reality in our lives, it will be difficult to make a meaningful legacy in life.

The world is full of different opportunities, so is the truth. Sometimes when faced with realities in our lives we are forced to change our lives in many different ways. If you are determined to look forward, look for these opportunities. There are millions of scenarios in life and no one can tell you what to do, your life is unique and you are the only one capable of applying the concepts to your situation. It will take some time to sort yourself out when you discover the truth but do not lose heart because the world is endless.  

The truth is that there are always truths to be said and discovered and when you find it you discover a new and better way towards living life meaningfully. It may be dark and lonely at first but with strong will and faith you will be able to handle whatever truth is made known to us. Because truth is dynamically vital to maintaining a rewarding relationship, we need to be able to handle it well, and for us to be able to handle the truth we have to have an open mind and heart. Remember the truth sets us free; as soon as we accept it, the better for us.