Are you attached to your ego?

Though it is not that easy to understand what your ego is and who your true self is, but one thing we need to understand is that your ego is not the real you. There are various questions which have kept propping up: is it bad or is it good. Does it bring people towards you or does it make people run away from you. Does it command respect or disrespect from people? Does it wreck or bond a relationship? There are several other questions which can keep coming up about ego, but the bottom line is ego is a fire cracker which could turn to something else if you are reckless about it.

Our ego is our greatest problem in life and could on the other hand be our greatest virtue if we utilise it properly. It could be inspiring but could be full of deceit. It gives you small boots of gratification when you succeed. The other side, however, it is also one of the biggest hindrances you face in life. Ego has both its positive and negative sides and if caution and patience take the back seat, the negative side could cause great pain in life. Most people do not realize that negative ego can sabotage our ability to manifest success in our lives. Most of our self sabotaging and destructive behaviours are driven by the negative aspects of our ego.

A healthy ego is where good and positive self esteem begins; a healthy ego does not react negatively, defend, justify, rationalize, fight, manipulate or hide from challenges because it is convinced that whatever happens will not change who one is and what one stands for. Having a negative ego could cause us to react in defensive ways, feel unloved and unappreciated, neglect your needs, be anxious, suspicious and jealous, feel dissatisfied and empty, make us feel we have to be different and better than every other person and thereby making us see negativity in all aspects of our lives. When you depend and believe so much in your negative ego, you will only end up living your life in a reactive mode, which is common among most people today. You find out that people are naturally moody and reactionary matter what happens to them.

Whenever we give our power to anything outside of ourselves, we become susceptible to feelings of anguish, anxiety, depression and stress. Usually the cause can be found when your ego has become attached and strongly identified with the outside world. Your ego is essentially yourself image, it is the mask you display to society.

Your ego only survives by constantly seeking approval from that which it wants to identify with. Therefore all the unhappiness you experience comes from the constant battle of your ego seeking approval in the outside world.

When we learn to tame our ego and if possible dump the negative ego, we will see massive gains and progress in every aspect of your life, separating yourself from your ego means separating yourself from comparisons with others whom you are in a relationship with. Though separating yourself could be difficult as we find ourselves surrounded by a society that that values comparisons. The more we attach ourselves to our negative ego and thought the further we move from the truth in our lives.

Our ego is based on emotions and not on logic hence the reason why it is hard to control, but over time it becomes easy to let go when you learn to ignore or tame you ego when it tries to hold you back in life. You are human and as such may still struggle at times with your ego to have a peaceful and happy relationship with those around you.

Taming your ego is really about raising one’s self esteem; to tame the ego is to quite negative talk and pursue peace of mind in a bid to engage in meaningful and loving relationship with others. It is only when our ego is healthy, can we truly give true love and support to others. Someone with an unhealthy ego only finds love and support foreign and beyond their reach, so are you ready to tame your ego and make your ego work positively for you?