Recently, a video where a wife was attacking a supposed girlfriend of her husband went viral. Different comments and arguments for and against this action have been expressed by several people. One question still remains: Is attacking the person a cheating partner is caught with the best way out?
Fatima Danladi, 42-year-old civil servant, says “I watched that video and truth be told; adults should not fight physically over issues like cheating, it’s immature and the end result is never too good. I am not saying this to encourage men’s philandering nature. Fighting makes a bad situation very complicated. I will advise if you can’t control your anger and must vent it out by fighting, then face your man and not the other woman, never.”
Oluwatosin Williams, 41-year-old lawyer, advices “Never stoop so low to the level of a fool. If you can’t ignore both of them (your spouse and his cheating partner), I suggest you take a break from the relationship by travelling or get yourself indulged in hobbies that would take your mind off the raging fire. And by the way, if you decide to let the aggressive side of you take over, then forget it because you have just given your husband/partner the free visa to keep seeing her. He will feel obliged to make her feel good and secure after all your drama.”
Onyinye Obiora, 39-year-old consultant, says “It’s really absurd what some women can do to prove to the man who just cheated on them that they are angry. Why in the first place is the wife attacking the woman? What happened to you attacking your partner? After all, he knows he has you and decided to be adventurous with another woman. Do we ever ask ourselves if the other woman ever knew he was married? Yes, I know a lot of them don’t mind making out with a married man but that is not enough reason to attack her, strip her naked and upload the video of the whole process on social media.”
Shade Babajide, 38-year-old nurse, asks “I have a simple question for all these crazy dramas which ironically are happening in different places at an increasing pace. If the said friend was sincere, why on earth did she not confide in her friend on what her husband was up to? If you claim to be my friend and my husband approaches you, wouldn’t you be wise and cautious enough to let me know? And trust me; no man will go after his wife’s friend if there’s no green light from the said friend in the first place.
“There are limits to how I can joke and interact with my friend’s husband or partner. No serious husband will attempt to have an intimate relationship with his wife’s friend if he didn’t get the go ahead from the friend. So yes, we can understand why the wife reacted that way. The lady is supposed to be her friend; maybe it would have been different if it was an unknown side chick, but my friend? No way.
“We keep excusing side chicks and it’s wrong. Yes, I will face my husband alone if I was the one, but if I have extra strength for the lady, especially if she’s my friend, then I’ll do it.”
Her sister, 40-year-old Anike Babajide, however disagrees and says, “You mean she should tell her friend and set their home on fire? I never wish to be the reason why someone’s home is broken. When you are done fighting your husband’s supposed side chick and the dust settles, you will then realize that you messed yourself up because you didn’t only drag the side chick in the mud but your husband and yourself as well. African men believe they have nothing to loose when it comes to infidelity, so snap back to reality as this is Africa and face your husband if you need to take out the rage.”
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