Why battle of sexes will continue

Some husbands are of the opinion that even the women have neglected their duties as wives and are now more engrossed in their work than the home front. “If you have a situation that your wife is more dedicated to her work than her home what do you do? Reading it in your paper that we have neglected our responsibility almost caused another Katakata in my home because she saw it as the right time to tell me what was on her mind in terms of my supposed relegation of duty. If a woman chooses to be more dedicated to her work than the home front then her work should be able to provide for her everything since her job can replace me. As for the children I will do my best for them within my capacity” says Mr. Seun Akindele.

Some describe the situation as the battle of the sexes. They believe women should bear the consequences since it is their choice to battle men believing they can do whatever a man can do. “They have a right in their own way but then there is a limit to what a man can do for his wife. I will not go out of my way to satisfy her and end up in jail, because sincerely speaking, if you are to follow every word that a woman says you will find out that you will end up incriminating yourself and at the end she will not be there for you, instead she will pick up her baggage and if she has conscience take her kids along leaving you to your fate,” says Chika Ogechukwu.

Many women insist that even if they are working to earn a pay, the men still have to take responsibility for everything and not even a dime of theirs go into the upkeep of the home as Musa Shehu explains in disgust. “There is nothing that I was doing then that I am not doing now. She does not use her money for anything in the home as even if she does she must make sure that I pay back as if she is not benefitting from that herself. Even the work she goes to, I still give her transport money and when I fail in one thing the whole world will get to know. Generally speaking, women are just too difficult to live with. They fail to realize that not every condition is permanent and we are never perfect beings, we are bound to make mistakes. But there is nothing like being imperfect when it comes to satisfying their every beck and call.”

A number of men have said the attitude of women have forced them to re-track in their steps and adjust so that they are not caught unawares. “Most things we do as a result of what we receive as treatment from our wives. Some wives are too stubborn to the extent that if they want to punish you they deny you your conjugal rights and still want you to answer to their whims and demands which is totally impossible. As for the children, what I have I will do for them, I will not let them suffer at the expense of their mother. As she is working she should be able to clothe and do some little things for herself then I can focus on the children fees and feeding of the home. If she does not agree to this arrangement, then she should leave the work and come back home and remain a mother and a wife, that to me is more than anything in this world,” says Tony Akette.

This battle is one that will continue for some time as husbands and wives continue to trade blame amongst themselves. In marriage, conflicts are bound to happen. Marriage is hard work and cannot survive with just one party being the dominant one; it is a union of partnership. Helping another is what will make the marriage a successful and happy one.