Rejected? But it’s not over!

Many women are always at the receiving end of being rejected especially in married life. We have heard and read of several cases of women being rejected by their spouses, friends and even family. When rejected, no one can escape from the pains that accompany it. Rejection is an inevitable part of life and it can be one of our greatest fears that can cause utmost damage to our personality and life. “Rejection is one of those universal experiences we can all relate to whether it is family or social. It could be business or a romantic rejection, that feeling of exclusion or lack of acceptance is something we all dread,” according to physo.org.com .

Handling rejection can be humiliating, frustrating and hard to digest for many of us especially women who are considered the weaker sex. Rejection can be difficult for most of us to handle as in some cases, we tend all sense of judgement and logic is lost. However, instead of drowning in self pity and isolation, we can come out with some pearls of wisdom and experience.

Rejection comes in various forms and can occur even in the smallest ways in our lives. But whatever the case, we always tend to blame ourselves for being rejected even if it is the other person’s problem and not ours.  Upholding our dignity and self respect depends on how we deal and handle rejection. When we are rejected, we have a propensity to feel unloved, worthless, insignificant and insecure. At moments like these, we lose our self confidence or even worse, rejection can lead us to do something disgraceful like some kind of vengeance. But it all boils down to one thing; that no matter how tough we might be or pretend to be, rejection definitely hurts and reaches down to our innermost selves and souls.

Everyone of us must have at one point in our lives, experienced rejection. It may be by a person with whom you want to have a relationship with or it could be when you’re turned down for a job you really want. The truth is that the only people who never experience rejection are those who never have any interaction with other people which in effect, makes for a pretty reclusive and lonely existence. Unfortunately, we cannot stay away from rejection but we must realize that it can be destructive only if we internalize it and permit it to go beyond the boundary we set for it. Learning the correct way about how to deal and overcome rejection helps us a great deal to easily overcome the notion of being worthless and strengthens our ability to build strong relationships with people around us.

Being rejected is a painful experience that can hinder us from doing things that we are meant to do. Having self confidence is necessary to overcome rejection in our life. If you feel good about yourself, you do not need to bother about what other people feel or think of you. The more confident you are, the better you will be good in handling different forms of rejection. Like it or not rejection is a fact of life, in fact a reality of life. But then, we need to understand that rejection is not the end of life.

When we feel rejected, we often respond in unhealthy ways. Some of us internalize our rejection and become passive and aggressive as we silently withdraw our affection from those around us. Our success in life depends largely on how we rejections, most people who are successful today have passed through serious criticisms and rejection before they got to where they are today. It is important that you do not lose hope and let rejection lower your self confidence.  It is important to understand that nobody can cause us the pain of rejection without our permission; rejection can only affect you if you give in too much to it and allow it to bother you. No matter the rejection you get from people around you, you can still live a fulfilled and positive life.

Handling rejection is all about exercising self control on our emotions and mind. Though it does happen in our lives and we tend to get carried away by the little filtrations that tend to shake up our lives at one point of our lives or another. In other words, rejection could be a learning process for us.

We all hate rejection but at one point in our lives, have to face it. There are times in our lives when you need to give yourself time and space to heal from rejection. When rejection comes, you feel it with immerse pain but then, you have to let go of it and move on. Most people sink themselves so deep in so much depression after rejection that they fall into despair and self pity which keeps them stuck and affects their future opportunities. Going into grief indefinitely will only be a waste of time on your own part. What you need to do is to focus on your future and forget the past or your present situation; the past could affect your future. Learn the lessons rejection offers you and move on to the next level. Rejection happens but that does not mean that it will continue to happen or it is the end of your life. We can always pick up our lives after rejection and live life as it is. Life attracts life so if you are not giving the opportunity to life you can never live your desired life. Rejection is never a sign of defeat; it’s a step to move further in life. So if you are rejected, brace for the battle because life is not over.